December 6, 2025
Kevin: Who is you, Chiron?
Chiron: I’m me man. I ain’t trying to be nothing else.
Moonlight
I used to be a people pleaser. Always trying to be liked, to be favored, to be exalted. Wrapped inside that was “nice guy syndrome”, doing unnatural things to win love and approval, suppressing my needs, avoiding conflict. And hoping that by doing so, I’d be rewarded. It worked, until it didn’t. Then it led to resentment, contempt, and self-abandonment.
Eventually, I shed that skin and learned to be unapologetically myself. Some people don’t and won’t like that version of me, and that’s fine. Not everyone is for me, and I’m not for everyone either. I’m not trying to fool anyone. I’m not performing. I’m me, man. I do my best to always be clear with my intentions, with my boundaries. I say it almost every day: Clarity is kindness. That kindness begins with honesty about the person in the mirror.
Life is too short to pretend. Being yourself is the fastest way to filter out the wrong people, and attract the ones meant for you. Carl Jung famously said, “the privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” You don’t have to wait. You can just be that person now.