January 9, 2026
Mood follows action.
Rich Roll
A potentially controversial take: Much of what’s called the “loneliness epidemic” is a crisis of agency, not access. It’s an excuse for people who would rather be victims, refusing to accept reality, instead of taking agency and putting down their devices, venturing out into the world, and entering potentially uncomfortable situations requiring vulnerability and courage. In other words, people with a victim mindset suffer so they can complain; those with an agency mindset suffer so they can grow. Yes, loneliness is real — but so is the choice to stay stuck in it.
If you are feeling lonely, go out into the world. You won’t find connection behind your keyboard or phone. Some will say they don’t have the time. I think anyone who says “I don’t have the time” is just saying it’s not a priority. It’s below their line. Which is fine, but if it’s below your line, you don’t get the right to complain about it. I’ve been guilty in the past about using this line, but what I have learned is that if it’s important enough, you will make the time — this goes for everything in life. You will find a way.
When you start getting out there (i.e., taking action), you’ll find that your mood improves. You naturally gravitate toward certain people or places or fields of energy. Follow that. It might take time — you’re not only building relationships, you’re also rediscovering who you really are — and what ultimately matters most to you.