See clearly. Respond wisely. Love fully.

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Brian Rumao

January 27, 2026

Ten thousand flowers in spring, the moon in autumn,

a cool breeze in summer, snow in winter.

If your mind isn’t clouded by unnecessary things,

this is the best season of your life.

Wu-Men-Kuan

One of the many benefits of mindfulness is the ability to cultivate a form of discernment; both in the seeing and the responding. I like to add a third element: loving fully.

See clearly: We see everything through our own prism, so naturally, it’s distorted. What we see is not what happens, but our perception of what happens. With mindfulness, we can acknowledge that we may be interpreting reality in a way that harms us, or in a way that harms others. We can take a step back, and shed the story we’ve created in our minds. We can see what is, and more importantly, what isn’t (but we thought was). Seeing clearly is the first step.

Respond wisely: In the moment of seeing clearly, we then have a choice of how to respond. Responding with wisdom is embodying the spirit of our ancestors, to not react, but to take a moment, a space in between, and realize the profundity of our consciousness. There is wisdom just in that pause. But as Fred Kofman says, “wisdom without compassion is ruthlessness, and compassion without wisdom is folly”. So I like to add my final aspect.

Love fully: I’ve shared in the past how I can bring my love to a situation. There are moments where responding wisely is sufficient; but there are others — especially with kids — that call for something simpler: a hug, a gentle tone, compassion. They may not always hear your words, but they always feel your energy. That, they remember. I aspire to be the more loving one, to give so fully that I leave no room for regret. I’ve found that when you love without holding back, there’s nothing left to second-guess.

This is a mantra: See clearly. Respond wisely. Love fully. It’s also a practice, unfolding every day, every moment. If only we could see it.