No one is entitled to me

November 24, 2025

 I’ve decided that not everybody’s entitled to have me in their life.

Elizabeth Gilbert, on the Tim Ferriss podcast

Not too long ago I had some hard conversations that resulted in my not working with some folks, with whom I had previously agreed to support. I’ll protect the privacy of the innocent, but this post is more about the privilege of choosing who you get to work with, and more generally, who you get to have your in your life - and who gets to have you in theirs.

I took my kids to our weekly crepe and waffle place this past week and we chatted with the kind owner, who is a one-man crew. He shared how it can be challenging because you can’t control who walks through the doors. He can’t control how they act, or what they complain about (melted chocolate most recently). I felt for him. He doesn’t control who’s in his life. That’s hard.

I’m grateful that I’m in a position where I have total control over who gets to be in my life. And I agree with the quote above - no one is entitled to me. It’s a high bar. So when people decide they don’t want me, I don’t take it personally. Not meant to be. Save your energy for the right people.